Just got hit on at the thrift shop.

If only he knew. Lol

An interesting question

To crossdress or not to crossdress..... That is the question

So, today was the first day since I decided to "just be me" that I've had this come up. I'm feeling particularly feminine today and had to ask myself "do I want to do a Heather day or just be a feminine guy?" On one hand, I do like the way I look when I go all out and on the other, I just want to be comfy. Since I'm working from home this week (kids are off from school), I have the freedom to dress any way I please so Heather is certainly an option today. I knew that I wanted to wear a skirt and tights or leggings, but those can work for guys too (there are quite a few who are doing it these days). I debated it for a while and settled on a pair of purple leggings, denim mini skirt and my 2 tone purple Cirque du Soleil t-shirt. My daughter picked out a small pair of earrings with purple stones in them and I'm being a feminine guy today. 

I don't need to be Heather to be comfortable and since I have the freedom to dress how I like I am actually quite happy being a feminine guy. This brought up an interesting thought. We all see effeminate males as gay because that is how society accepts them. But what if what I am doing was as socially acceptable as the effeminate gay male? Would we see many feminine guys in skirts and tights, yet still presenting as male? I'm not cross dressing since I am not trying to appear female today, no more than a female who wears her hair short and wears baggy jeans and work boots is cross dressing. It's an interesting question to ponder.

A new dollhouse

I'm building a multi-story Barbie doll house for my daughter that she designed. I assembled the first 3 floors of the house and she is downstairs sanding the edges. This is the first time she;s done a woodworking project so this should be interesting.

Another alternative for cross dressers

I realize that this may not work for everyone, but for those of us with the balls to do it, it's a good alternative. Recently in a conversation with my wife she mentioned that our daughter wants "daddy" some times instead of Heather. I can understand this. Being the child of an out of the closet cross dresser has to be far from easy. She doesn't want to tell people that Heather is her daddy, so Heather is her older sister. At the same time, the pressures there can get to her at times. This is something that I have thought about for quite some time, and there are basically 3 solutions to the problem.

1. Go back in the closet. This would definitely make life the easiest on our daughter, but at the same time it is not an option. Not going there. Sorry...

2. Keep going as is. Sure, she has to find a way to explain Heather, but it's no worse than if I were gay or some of the other alternatives.

3. I say screw what people think and wear what I want to wear when I want to wear it as a guy. This means that I will wear skirts (I already have ventured there and plan to continue anyway), carry a purse (been doing that every day for about 4 years), have my nails done 24/7 (been doing that for about 2 years), wear heeled boots, stiletto or otherwise (been doing that for a few years now), wear leggings, stretch jeans, or other feminine attire (tossed the last of my male clothing years ago anyway), etc. So basically, keep doing what I am already doing in guy mode anyway. So the only difference is there are some fashions that have been "heather only" that I would start integrating into my male wardrobe. Sure, Heather days will still happen but really it's about being me, which I have been venturing towards anyway. 

I've been saying for years now that I believe that most cross dressers only started cross dressing because it was the only way we could wear what we want to wear. Society invented the cross dresser. If we didn't have the "male" pressure and double standard when it comes to fashion, most of us would probably never have started. We would just be feminine males. For me, option #3 was where I was heading anyway, I think it's time to make the leap and just be me. Heather is here to stay, but Heather might spend less time out and about, and a more feminine Joe may be seen out more often. It should be interesting either way.

Hugs,
Heather

Girl Scouts now allow 'transgendered boys' to join Brownie troops

Oh no! The evil Girl Scouts are out to ruin civilization. Run! Hide! Bury your heads in the sand before it's too late!

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