have been placed in a position where I can choose between compromising
my beliefs for a few "friends" or sticking to my guns and being happy as
who I am. Have I lost a few casual friends as a result of recent
happenings? maybe.. Am I going to lose any sleep over it? Definitely
not! Choices have been made and things have been said that can't be
taken back. I'm sure that over time things will calm down and it will
get better on that front, but it can never go back to where it was
before. What is really sad is when you are placed in a position where
you have to choose between a best friend and your wife, both of which
are right on many points.
On the one side we have the narrow-minded bunch who are stuck on the
"those are girl clothes" thing. Why are they "girl clothes" anyway? Who
decided that only girls can wear stretch jeans or heels? After all, high
heels were invented for MEN originally! So I like to wear a skirt... Men
have worn skirts and dresses (by whatever name they were called.. robes,
kilts, etc) for millennia, why is it wrong in the 21st century to wear
what men have worn since the dawn of time? Men in the Renaissance wore
makeup, British Parliament still wear wigs to this day, so why do the
narrow-minded ones have an issue with what I wear i guy mode? Maybe I
should start having an issue with fat, beer-drinking men, or women with
nails so long they can't function... I find them as much a turn off as
some find my choice in clothing.
On the other side we have the open-minded ones who see no issue with
wearing what is comfortable so long as it is respectable. These are the
ones who don't really care how you look so long as you are a decent
human being.
Let's see.. hang around with those who would restrict the freedoms of
others to make themselves comfortable, or the ones who will accept you
as you are? gee... tough choice... Not!
Don't like what I have to say? Feel free to not read it then. That's all
I can say.. This is how I feel. It sucks that I have to feel this way,
but that is where I have been forced to be by the actions of others. I
will never give up my freedom to be me so that others can be happy with
me. I'll go somewhere else first.
4 comments:
Dear Heather:
I will read what I will read, and as long as I can I will post what, where and what I feel like, for unlike you, I can do this without offending anyone. If you were offended by the beaten truth of my last post, then you Ma-am-wana-be, need a lesson in real life humility.
The issues you present in the last few posts are so self-centered I’m surprised you haven’t had the crap beat out of you yet, or are you hiding that from the blog. I have been a CD for over 20 years, and, yes, I’ve gotten into a few ‘scuffs’ over it. Lessons learned are the most valuable lessons someone can ever have.
“Compromising your beliefs for a few ‘Friends’?” Give the world a break, and stop making everything so YOU! What beliefs can you possibly be compromising? Offending everyone? Doing what you want without respect for those around you? Or maybe it’s the belief that you can wear what you want, when you want, without fear of reticule or retaliation? Good luck on that one! You will have better luck becoming president of the USA then that. Oh, I know what belief: You can do what you want, when you want, without fear.
The fact of the matter is, no matter how your self centered little self-wants to see it, you must abide by the greater majority. You know this, I know this, I believe it, and you refuse to believe it. Would you walk into a Biker bar en-famine? I think not, and I wouldn’t either. There’s a place and time for everything and quite possibly, the friends you are talking about is neither the time nor place.
Next little point for you to ponder, young CD: Society decides what you can ware, when you can ware it, and how it’s worn. Society is the doctrine we must all fit into, unless you live in a bubble world. Yes, you are right about the established origins of the heels, but if take a look around the world, you will see that style went out ages ago, and a group of CD’s like us will never bring it back.
Are you sure they are narrow-minded, or rather not face any outside ridicule, or perhaps something that would originate from within their social circles? Again, it’s not just the “you” here in this debate/ argument you are having, it’s their friends, family and social circles you affect as well. If you haven’t ever read it, try researching ‘6 degrees of separation’, in which it very accurately describes how many people we really affect with our decisions and actions.
Next thing: In case you have never known it, your freedoms end when they infringe on another’s freedoms. Our nation has gone to war over this time and time again. You know the nation, the one that gives us all these rights and privileges to exercise these rights. Your freedom of expression ends when it interferes with someone else’s freedom. Remember that! The very nation that gave you that freedom can also remove it (not that it would, just that it could).
I honestly believe your being forced to conform to Society’s defined terms, and that’s what you dislike: what society and defined as proper male clothing.
Maybe, Just maybe, your guns should be holstered and saddled for a while there cowboy. I can emphasize with you, even sympathize with the problems you face, but the bottom line is, your pushing, pushing hard, and these friends you are talking about don’t want to be pushed, so they are pushing hard.
One last thing for today: “What is really sad is when you are placed in a position where you have to choose between a best friend and your wife, both of which are right on many points.” Are they opposite points? Do they have common grounds? I would personally would tell the best friend that this is what he’s done. If he’s a real friend, I bet he’ll back off.
An Old CD
Heather: I didn't know I've come between you and your Wife. If I did, it was an accident; something I'll try to remidey as soon as I can, if I can. I'm sorry. If I've caused these issues and problems, or arggravated them, then I'll stop it here and now, and you know I can and will. You know better then to ever let someone come between you two.
SU.
SU.. Its more that my wife was forced to defend me when she should not have had to. Nothing has come between my wife and I. Rather, I now have a rift between my wife and my best friend.
Dear Heather
As I have mentioned to you, you are young and very enthusiastic about Heather as much as I am about Louise, but we have to realize we are going to get bumped around from time to time. I'm older and don't care because they never did or will do anything for me, but you're young and need to be somewhat reserve, it's only because peer pressure dictates most of our or others lives. Some people have the courage to be themselves and that's what makes us "special."
Cute Louise
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