Quit playing with my boobies....

That is an all-too familiar phrase that is heard in our house from time
to time. Now, you may be wondering what I am talking about. You see, our
6 year old daughter thinks it is fun to walk over when I have my
underwear drawer open (That's where my breast forms are kept) and poke
and squeeze them. Sometimes she will even put them under her shirt and
pretend she is an adult with boobs. At other times she does her "booby
head" impression - she puts one on her head and thinks it is funny.
Inevitably I end up saying "Alright, quit playing with my boobies...." LOL

New boots

I actually managed to find a pair of over the calf boots that are fairly
snug tp my calves for once. I'm so happy! Every other pair I own have
rather large diameter calves and so don;t have that snug look and feel
to them. This pair looks great over a pair of skinny jeans. I go them
for $50 at Kohl's.

It's time for leggings again

Well, now that fall is here and the temps are starting to fall again it
doesn't necessarily mean that the hemlines need to fall too. Now is the
time to take all those tank and spaghetti strap summer dresses and put a
long sleeve white top on under them. I find that a pair of colored
pantyhose or tights work great for keeping the legs warm and gives me
that much more flexibility in color selection and style. It's also time
to break out the over the calf boots and put the flip-flops away for the
season.

A pair of capri leggings under a short skirt and a long sleeve top under
a sleeveless or short sleeve top is another great way to be fashionable
and warm at the same time. I find I can wear the short skirts this way
right into December.

Honesty is always a good thing

Sunday, on the way home from WV we stopped at a rest stop halfway across
PA. I was in goth mode as Joe... dark jeans, my 3" platform boots, black
tank top, fishnet arm warmers, eye liner, and leather choker with a
black cross. We got some lunch and ate there. When we were getting up to
leave, there was a big black lady sitting at a table next to us. As I
was getting up, she got my wife's attention and wanted to talk to me.
She said "I love you. Don't you ever change. You're such a beautiful
individual. Don't you ever stop being yourself, you keep on being you."
I thanked her for the compliment and went on my way.

A funny incident at Walmart

I had a funny incident happen today at Walmart. I was in the checkout
line and there was this short lady, maybe 5' tall in front of me. She
turns and looks at me and says "Man, you're tall." I replied "Yes I am".
"I look like a midget compared to you." She looked down and saw I was
wearing heels and said "You're tall even without the heels. How tall are
you in heels, 6'2"? I said "Yeah, about that." She just shook her head
and laughed. I was just a really tall chick to her.

I just had to share. I was wearing 3" heels today, which is pretty
normal for me. I have no issue with wearing heels on a regular basis. I
believe that the taller you are, the taller the heel you should wear to
keep the proportion of foot to heel looking right. A 4" heel is even
normal for me, which puts me at a little over 6'2" tall.

For those who are afraid.....

This post is for all of those (MtF mostly) who are afraid to go shopping
for female clothing/shoes/etc. while in guy mode. Today I was at Payless
looking at shoes with my wife, daughter and a friend of ours. I was in
my typical goth guy mode, black nail polish, black tank top, black
longsleeve fishnet top, dark jeans and my 3" platform boots and carrying
a purse. I found a great pair of brown snake skin strappy stiletto heels
that I just had to have (For $6, how could I not?). I took the shoes to
the register and the sales lady rang them up for me. I was alone at the
register as the rest of our party had already left the store. I took my
wallet out of my purse and handed the lady my credit card. She rang it
up and even commented on how cute the shoes wee. I told her "hey, for $6
how can I go wrong?". She agreed. She completed the sale and I was just
another paying customer. She did not care that I was a goth guy buying a
pair of women's high heels. She even asked me "Do you need any
accessories? Trouser socks, etc?"

So, if you are afraid to go into a store as a guy and buy women's
clothing I have this advice for you... Go in there and act as if you
belong there. Do not act embarrassed or like you are doing something
wrong and chances are they will not care one way or the other. They may
even offer to help you pick out what you are looking for. Don't be shy
about the fact that you are looking for whatever. If they ask if you
need help and you are afraid to admit you are shopping for you, simply
tell them that you are just browsing and aren't quite sure what you are
looking for yet and be sure to thank them for offering to help you.

Maryland Transgender Anti-Discrimination Law Stands

*MARYLAND HIGH COURT THROWS OUT REFERENDUM PETITION THAT ATTEMPTED
TO OVERTURN A TRANSGENDER ANTI-DISCRIMINATION LAW
*
(Annapolis, September 9, 2008) - Today, the Maryland Court of
Appeals ruled that an inadequate referendum petition to block a
unanimously enacted transgender protection law may not go on the
ballot for the November general election, and the law must be
allowed to go into effect. The high court reversed the decision of a
Montgomery County Circuit Court judge, who had previously ruled that
the referendum effort to overturn the law should be allowed on the
November ballot, despite the acknowledgement that the petition did
not carry the legally required number of signatures. Today's ruling
by the high court is the final word on the fate of the referendum.
"The bottom line is that the court said a petition sponsor shouldn't
be allowed to cut corners and circumvent legal requirements to get a
referendum attacking minority protections on the ballot," said
Natalie Chin, Staff Attorney at Lambda Legal. "We are very happy
that this duly enacted law can take effect and protect a vulnerable
group of Montgomery County residents."

On November 13, 2007, the Montgomery County Council unanimously
passed an act adding gender identity to the county's civil rights
law in order to address discrimination against transgender
individuals. A group calling itself Citizens for Responsible
Government (CRG) sought to collect enough signatures on a referendum
petition to block the law from going into effect. Lambda Legal,
together with counsel retained by Equality Maryland, represented
concerned Montgomery County registered voters who opposed CRG's
flawed referendum effort to set back the clock on civil rights in
Montgomery County. Lambda Legal and Equality Maryland argued that
the number of signatures needed to put the referendum petition on
the November general election ballot was insufficient and that the
Montgomery County Board of Elections over-counted purported
signature entries in violation of detailed statutes that safeguard
the referendum process.
"This long overdue, crucial law is all about assuring that unchecked
bias is not allowed to inhibit our neighbors' abilities to make a
living or rent a home, and as a Montgomery County resident, I
breathe a sigh of relief that this campaign to roll back
anti-discrimination protections is now over," said Dan Furmansky,
Executive Director of Equality Maryland. "While we were ready to
make our case to the voters of Montgomery County, it is far better
that our transgender brothers and sisters be spared the rhetoric
that the referendum proponents have subjected them to over the past
year. Equality Maryland thanks Lambda Legal, the National Gay and
Lesbian Task Force, the law firm of Arnold and Porter, and the many
volunteers who came together to assure that our laws in Montgomery
County are on par with the 100 other jurisdictions nationally that
protect residents from discrimination on the basis of gender identity."
Susan Sommer, Senior Counsel, and Natalie Chin, Staff Attorney, are
on the case for Lambda Legal. Jonathan Shurberg, lead attorney for
Equality Maryland, argued the case. The case is Doe et al. v.
Montgomery County Board of Elections.

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Equality Maryland: Dan Furmansky 301-461-4900 cell;
dan@equalitymaryland.org <mailto:dan@equalitymaryland.org>
Lambda Legal: Tika Milan 212-809-8585 ext. 223;
tmilan@lambdalegal.org <mailto:tmilan@lambdalegal.org>

New myspace layout

Well, I decided to change my myspace layout. It was time for something different.

One of my bigger pet peeves

One of my bigger pet peeves is one that I run across all the time as I
read transgendered and crossdressing related posts on the net. In almost
every case the articles, blogs, etc. reference MtF as if it is all that
there is. They will talk about looking like a woman, becoming a woman,
it's all about being a woman, etc. In so many cases the articles present
their "facts" and totally forget to take into account that there are
those out there that are FtM as well. Please, if you are going to talk
about transgendered or crossdressing issues, remember that there is
another side that is equally as important and just as valid.

A worthwhile quote from the net (author unknown)

*Employment anti-discrimination is not about making anyone "believe" anything-- it is about protecting people from being fired (or not being hired) regardless of their abilities or qualifications, merely because they are transgender.  If such legislation is enacted, transphobes will retain their right to believe whatever they want, but they will not be allowed to use those beliefs to justify discrimination or workplace harassment. Anti-discrimination laws are not "thought crime" laws.

Going strapless

For any GG (or TS with their own breasts), going strapless isn't
necessarily a big deal. For them, going strapless is a simple matter and
they don't necessarily have to worry about losing their breasts or the
dress while they walk. For a crossdresser on the other hand, this is a
whole different matter. You see, for me (being a crossdresser), I rely
on my bra (or a really tight top) to hold my breast forms in place.
Without this support, there is no way for me to keep the "girls" where
they belong. Now, going strapless presents some different challenges.
The first one is finding a dress that fits properly. If it is even a
little loose, there is no way I can possibly keep it in place since the
only thing holding it up is the breasts. The next challenge is finding
support for my breast forms that will stay put without straps to hold
them up. I have tried many bras strapless and they all inevitably slip
down over time and I constantly have to pull the bra back up to keep my
breasts from being down by my waist. I have tried long line bras, body
briefers (these were the worst actually), and a number of bras. Well,
the other day I finally found a bra that would stay in place. This bra
has a thin band of silicon around the inner edges of the bra all the way
around the band and fairly rigid cups. I found that if I put the bra on
and hook it at the tightest setting (which is a bit smaller than I
normally wear), the silicon held the bra in place for much longer. Now
instead of having to reposition things every 10 minutes, I could go
several hours before I noticed any movement. I actually wore a black &
pink strapless dress out in public for the very first time on Friday.
Now that I found a bra that can be worn strapless I definitely plan on
going strapless more often. I just love the feeling and the look. :)