A very interesting conversation

This is taken from a group that I am a member of, culminating with my response at the bottom. I think i summed up what many Trans-Gendered people think...

::::First message::::
Subject: Question for the Day ... "Sanctuary"

Not so much a question as a thought. Someone eMailed me recently, suggesting if all CDs who are "socially" unhappy, besieged, rebuffed, ridiculed or "fear-filled" were to pool their financial resources, we might have enough to buy and "island sanctuary" where any TG-Person who wanted to could live ...(or visit) ... in peace, harmony, freedom (and great looking clothes)...

Would You Want That ?

:::: My reply ::::
"Heather" wrote:
No. this is along the lines of the room where you can be whoever you want to be but never leave. It is a prison, not freedom. GO out, and say to heck with those that don't like it.

:::: Author's response ::::
Dear Heather ~ in point of fact, I totally agree with your premise ... which I believe is: ... "cloistered individuals and cloistered communities begin to decay and die the moment they are established."
But, honestly, doesn't the notion of a ... "CD MEGA-STORE" ... owned by CDs ... staffed with CDs ... for the sole purpose of making CDs happy ... in a community where you can dash out the front door ... wearing a brand new outfit ... shouting "look-at-at-me" ... and get nothing but applause and kudos ... doesn't that appeal to you just a little bit ...

:::: My final response ::::
Actually, that isn't my point at all, and the idea as you present it doesn't appeal to me at all. To do as you describe would be to give up all that I am working for. I am working for a world where we WILL be accepted as we are whatever that may be. To establish somewhere as you describe would be the admitting to the jerks and obnoxious ones that they were right and we were wrong. It will become a leper colony in the eyes of the world. What I want is to be able to go to the local Kmart and browse for a nice skirt or pair of heels and not have people look at me like I am a freak. The only way to do this is to keep it right in front of them until Society begins to bend (which it has been doing for the past 20 years or so) and realize that there is no such thing as "male" or "female" clothing (maybe with the exception of bras). I want a society where a man can say to his wife "Does this dress make me look fat?" and not have her look at him like he has 3 heads...

Look at nudist colonies.. Yes, they are accepted to a degree only because society as a whole does not have to see it. Try going out in public nude and see how long it takes to get arrested. Many people look at nudists the same way they look at child molesters or such, and only tolerate it because they don't know its there.

I don't want to have to go somewhere "private" to dress as I choose to dress. I want to do it in public where anyone can see and not give me a second look because I'm a freak...

I want to go to a salon and get my hair permed and my nails done in a pretty pink, my eyebrows waxed and my toenails painted.

I want to be able to wear open toe sandals that don't look like they were designed for Herman Munster.

I want to be able to wear a skirt in summer because it is cooler and stockings in winter.

I want to be able to wear a skirt suit to work in lieu of a suit & tie (I despise ties).

I want to be able to wear 3" heels because I like the way they accentuate my legs.

I want to be able to buy jeans that actually fit me and hug my curves like a pair of size 3 women's stretch jeans do, instead of jeans that are stiff and lousy fitting (try finding a 26" waist, 34" inseam men's jeans sometime).

I want to be able to wear a pink shirt that matches my nails.

I want to wear dangly earrings when I choose to instead of the studs that I do now.

I want to be able to wear pink tinted sunglasses at the beach while wearing my bikini and see thru sarong.

I want to hear my daughter say "Dad, can I borrow your purple leather skirt for my date tonight?".


And the most important thing of all.. I want to do all of this where I live and work, in full view of everyone!!!!! And I want to do it as a MALE!!!

This is why I think the idea you propose is a bad thing...



Just my .02 worth - take it for what it is...

Like my wife says... Opinions are like assholes... Everyone has one and most of them stink..