Corsets

Well, I've been wanting to get a corset for the longest time. Yesterday I decided to take one that my wife had and never wears and see if I could get it to work for me. I took it in and found I can get myself down to a 22" waistline. The corset wasn't really designed to take that amount of strain but I can wear it laced down to 24" with no problem. I decided to wear it to work today, even. It feels kind of odd wearing a corset this long, but I love it. I need to get one in my size that was meant to take what I want to put it through. I think I have just the source too. I found one on ebay that I am definitely putting on my wish list! I have a feeling that I may end up wearing a corset on a daily basis under my clothes.

The corset I want

What a night!

Last night was the ladies night out, or at least it was supposed to be. It seems that some ignoramus made some threats, so the Palms cancelled on us. They closed the bar at 8. A bunch of us want to Georgie's bar in Asbury Park for munchies & drinks then to the Paradise club. We all had a great time. Louise rode up with us and it was nice to have the company for the trip. Everyone loved my dress and I got hit on a few times and groped once.. LOL I definitely love to get out with the girls and need to do it more.

at the park

at the park, originally uploaded by heathercd_2005.

My second story

My second story has been published on Gromet's site... enjoy!

New menus

I replaced the menu structure with a javascript tree menu. This should allow me to add lots more content without haveing the menu grow out of control. Let me know if anything is broken.

A small update

I haven't been blogging a whole lot lately because work has been keeping me pretty busy. I'm still getting used to the new nails, but I am definitely getting used to them. I can definitely understand why women get their nails done. Maybe when I go in for a fill I'll get my eyebrows waxed too. It would definitely beat plucking them. Since my wife saw my nails I think she may be thinkign of getting gels done too. Who knows, maybe we can go to the salon together some day. :)

 

This Saturday is the Ladies Night Out in Toms River. I certainly can't wait to go and see all the girls again. It was loads of fun the last time. My wife is shopping for a new outfit to wear that night. The way she looks at it is if I want to look sexy, why shouldn't she? I'm certainly all for that one.

 

I'm working with a few other TGs in the hopes that we can start a support group in the area. We definitely need one in the southeastern part of NJ.

My outing today

Today when I got up I got dressed up since I had a nail appointment this morning. I wore a pair of stretch jeans, white camisole, brown v-neck top, my new flowered socks and my brown boots. I also decided to go with the long wig for a change. I went for my nail appointment which was wonderful (see the blog entry from earlier today for details). After my appointment, my wife asked if I'd like to go thrift shopping, like she actually has to ask! LOL! I was looking for a sweater or shrug to go with the dress I want to wear to ladies night out next week. I found a pale green open knit sweater shrug that should work great since my dress is sleeveless and I know that it will probably be a bit chilly.

 

While we were thrift shopping my wife overheard a rather rude woman state "I don't know who he thinks he is fooling." My wife walked by the woman and said "We're not trying to fool anyone." Way to go honey! :) I knew there was a reason that I married her.. LOL! Obviously I was read by at least one person, but this was the only reaction we noticed. Considering my daughter kept calling me "daddy" rather loudly, I'm not surprised really. Otherwise the afternoon shopping was a wonderful experience.

 

On the way home we stopped at Dunkin' Donuts for some donuts & a drink. My wife thinks the guy being the counter (Indian guy) liked Heather. He kept looking at me with a big smile on his face. He even threw in 2 extra donuts in the dozen we bought.

 

I'm not sure if I'll get out again before next saturday night, but days like today definitely make it all worthwhile.

my nails

my nails
Originally uploaded by heathercd_2005.

my new nails

my new nails
Originally uploaded by heathercd_2005.

Man, I feel like a woman.....

Oh how much meaning that song has right now.... I just got back from the nail salon and let me tell you, it was INCREDIBLE!!!!! I had gels and tips done and they look totally natural! I walked into the salon and they sat me down for the girl to do my nails. I told her that I wanted to get my nails a little longer than they are but they keep breaking. I also told her that I needed to kep them as natural looking as possible and just a little longer than my fingertips since I am not full-time. Her reply was "No problem, I'll take care of you". She commented on how split my nails are and I told her that was why I was there. Once I relaxed my hands (I was really tense when she started), I just let her do all the work. It was a great experience. She talked me into doing them light pink gel instead of clear, and I am so glad she did. The pink is just a hint of tinting and you can't even tell that they have color to them. The best part about the gels is they are more flexible than normal acrylics. If you have a problem with nails splitting & tearing, this will definitely be for you. If you have ever considered fake nails, I highly recommend that you go with gels. It is really worth it! Forget glue-one or stick ons...

Lack of a support infrastructure in southern NJ

Ok, I've reached a point where I'm tired of not having a support infrastructure available in my area. I live about 30 miles north of Atlantic City and the nearest organized support groups for TGs are a minimum of 1-1/2 hours from here. I know there are groups like Tri-Ess, and others but they are all concentrated near the major cities. I think it is time to form some sort of support group in southern NJ for all of us south-eastern NJ girls, spouses, SO's. My wife & I love to meet other TGs and their SO's. I also want to find my wife the support that she really needs from others.

 

If you are interested in getting involved (or just showing up somewhere safe for support from your peers), reply here or drop me a private note. Let's see if we can't organize some sort of monthly meeting somewhere (even if its at someone's house for the time being).

How would we cope?

Some days I wonder how I ever would have survived if I had not discovered cross-dressing. I have been doing it for so long that I cannot remember a time when i did not want to wear some article of feminine clothing. Even when I have been doing "male" things like off-roading I could always be found wearing a mock turtleneck leotard instead of a shirt while on the trail. I ride my motorcycle wearing boots with a 2-3" heel almost every day, even to bike rallies. You would think that I would have issues there if anywhere, but even at rallies with thousands of bikers present, not once did I have anyone think anything of my boots.

 

I have always been closer to my girl friends than to my guy friends, most likely because my brain thinks more like a woman's than a man's. Could I go a week without needing to dress up? Sure, when I do my annual camping trip for 9 days I don't dress up while there, but each day that I don't dress, the need multiplies until when we get home I have to dress up as soon as possible. My need has definitely grown from a simple wearing panties to a real need to express this side of myself. Each time I go out as Heather it only reinforces the fact that there is not only nothing wrong with what I do, but that people really don't seem to mind it these days.

 

I have learned that it is really OK to be who you really are. So long as you are not hurting anyone else, it should be that way. Somehow I managed to find the most understanding woman in the world and married her. I'm still trying to figure that one out. It does seem as if women are for the most part very open & understanding about the whole thing... At least the younger ones are.

 

I'm published!

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Wish me luck!

Well, I finally decided to go for it. This Saturday Heather has an appointment at a local salon to have gel nails done. I'm going with the natural look, and will keep them to a respectable male length (but longer than my fingertips). I asked the person on the phone if they have any problems with a cross-dresser getting her nails done there and I was told "We have no problem with that at all".  So wish me luck! I hope this will be a good experience for me. If it works out I certainly will be keeping them up from here on out. I'll be sure to get pics of my new nails once I am done....

New pics posted

I posted pics from Friday and a shoot in Dec. to album # 24. I am starting to go for the vintage look and B&W. I'd love to get comments on my look.

My mom is the greatest!

I have the best mom! Yesterday it was 65 here and I had taken the day of to be with my daughter. Of course it was a Heather day. I wore a jean mini skirt, pink cami, pink sweater, and tan heels. I took my daughter to the park and to visit my mom. My mom didn't bat an eye at seeing me in a mini skirt. Now that is the way it should be, total acceptance. It made zero difference to her one way or the other to see me as Heather. Love ya mom!

I was a baaad girl!

Last night I had the opportunity to get together with 2 local girls. I wore a black leather skirt, black stockings, black spandex top, black boots, and a thin leather collar. Originally the plan was to meet at one girls house and play for a bit. In the end, plans were changed last minute and we went out to a bar for a few drinks and karaoke. I didn't think to call my wife and let her know that we were going to go out for a bit, that was mistake #1. When we were at the bar, we were having a great time and one of the girls kept buying me drinks. Now, normally when I drink (Rum & Coke is my usual) I will space them out over time so I don't get drunk. I just like to get a little buzz and keep it there. Last night every time my glass got near empty another full glass was brought over for me (not that I was complaining, mind you). After 3 drinks in about 2 hours, I was beyond buzzed and was definitely drunk (plastered might be a better description). This was mistake #2. We did have a great time at the bar and had some really great conversation. At one point one of the girls attached a leash to my collar and we got some really jealous looks, which I loved. I learned quite a bit about my 2 girlfriends and we needed to talk in depth before any play anyway. By the time we got back to her house, I was feeling pretty darn good. Normally I'm a somber drunk who keeps to myself. Normally I'll just go off & go to sleep if I have too much to drink, but I guess the conversation and company made a difference. I definitely became a bit of the party animal, I was amazed by myself. Then again, This was the first time that Heather ever got drunk, so I have a feeling that this had something to do with it too.

 

When we got back to the house I knew that I was in no condition to drive and one of the girls suggested that I call my wife to tell her i needed to sober up first, which was a good idea and I would have gotten there eventually on my own. After I called my wife (who wasn't too thrilled, but I'm sure she was happier to have me stay there than try to come home). About 10 minutes later the alcohol hit home and I went from being very happily drunk to not feeling so hot. My girlfriends took good care of me though, making sure I had some ginger ale to settle my stomach and kept me talking to focus so the room wouldn't spin out of control. After things settled down they put me to bed to sleep it off. I ended up getting home around 4:30 (my plan was to be home by 1 or 2 at the latest).

 

Thanks for showing me a good time girls, and more importantly, thanks for looking after me when I was in no state to do it myself. Next time, 1 drink, and let me ask for another when I'm ready.

What a dress

Yesterday I got out to Louise's house for a photo shoot and a bit of play (but that is an entry for another blog). I brought some of my new outfits and I have to say they looked really good on me. Louise gave me a few things from her closet. One of them was the absolutely perfect purple dress. This dress was made for me! It fits me great and looks so good on me I was stunned. And the best part is it is my favorite color. .Purple! I think I will wear this dress to the Ladies Night Out in 2 weeks if I can find a shrug to wear with it.

girls day

Today I decided I needed a girls day. I got my shower and a nice close shave. I did my fingernails & toes a nice deep red. I decided to go with nude pantyhose, my snakeskin skirt, white cami, black sweater and my black knee boots. I went to the office to check on a few things and then came home to spent the rest of my day en femme. some days I wish I could work from home. If I could I would definitely spend my days as Heather. There is just something about wearing a skirt that is so much more comfy than pants. I'd wear a skirt every day if I could.

It looks like the radio station doesn't care enough to even reply to my email. i'm not all that surprised really.

I've been promoted.....

On one of the sites I maintain I have been dubbed the "Royal Webmistress". It is good to be appreciated.

Tg's as sex objects

I find it interesting how most men consider a TG as a sex object. Somehow they assume that our only reason to dress as a woman is to please them sexually. While it may be true that the majority of the t-girls that you run into on the web seem to be little whores, we are not all that way. Being an attractive TG, I can definitely understand what many women go through. While it feels good to be hit on out of the blue, to have most guys asking for a BJ (actually, most almost demand one) is insulting. Most of the time I just want to beat some sense into them, or better yet, tie them up and take some compromising pictures. Then get their address from their wallet and mail them to their wife.

the other thing that really ticks me off is when a guy tries to dominate me in an IM session. True, I may be a submissive, but that does not give someone who I do not know the right to be dominant with me. I choose who I will give the gift of submission to. First they need to earn my respect and my trust. Then there is an established protocol that my wife & I have agreed on. Once that happens, and if we both agree to it, then talk can begin as to me being their submissive. Many never get this concept, even after I spell it out for them.

What is so hard about no profile, no chat anyway? It really is easy to fill out a profile with enough information and not be so specific that your wife will know it is you.