answer, but not so for our daughter. Being the child of a crossdresser
who is out and proud leads to that sort of question being asked
frequently. The problem being that it is usually me who they think is
her mom. Normally, she kind of avoids the question, but yesterday when I
was at her school party, the answer was easy for her. "No, that's my
dad, silly" was the answer.
But, wait... I'm a cross dresser, right? So the question should have
been expected... Well, in this case I was not cross dressed. I wasn't
even all that girly as an androgynous guy, really. Yes, I went
androgynous that day in a skirt and lace top, but for her school party,
I threw on a pair of long, boot cut jeans (non-girly), and a T-shirt
(also, non-girly.. A black Cirque du Soleil shirt). Ok, I did have a
touch of eyeliner (very light) on and wore black ballet flats and
carried my purse, but that was it. My hair is somewhat short (above the
collar) and I have a definite guy hairline (receding), definitely not
"girl" length. Yes, I have my ears double pierced, but I wear 14ga
piercings in them in guy mode, not girly earrings at all. I didn't wear
my rings or have my nails painted. I was even sporting a beard shadow
(even after a close shave I have beard shadow).
In guy mode I don't look like a girl, I look more androgynous at best. I
wasn't even trying to be girly. I can see how some who have longer hair
will be confused for a girl, but this is honestly the first time this
one has happened to me. Let's face it, kids are really good at spotting
cross dressers. If anyone is gonna see that Heather is a guy, it's a
kid. They see right through me more often than not. How then did a 7
year old think I was her mom? It boggles my mind.
1 comment:
Hey Heather
I guess I can see it. Think of it this way. From what I have read you have been to her school a number of times as Heather. Being out and proud I am sure that your feminine side show through even when you don‘t think it is. An really Cirque du Soleil, ballet flats and purse. What you described sounds more like a girl trying to down play her femininity than a guy. Maybe this person thought what the heck happened to her mom, she looks like a guy. Consider it a compliment. You stated that children usually see thought a CD and know it’s a guy. Maybe you have more girl going on then you think. Also I will refer you to your own web site to an article on Admires. They like us because we are more feminine than GG;s.
You may try to be androgynous and consider yourself that, but does the rest of the world see us that way or do they categorize us one way or the other. ( Masculine / feminine ). Even children who see through everything get lost in the standard roles. I was told once by my closest friend (Tanya). You spent you whole life trying to be a guy and when you finally admitted your feminine side and let it loose you had to relearn everything over again. Now even when in guy mode the girl shows through, and vice verse.
Some one like you that seems to have such a good handle on who they are can sometimes be shocked by how others see us. Even the children.
Katie
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